Reflect: When to Quit and When to Grit "Sometimes our behavioral inertia pulls us forward, toward continuing. Our thoughts latch onto a pursuit we've been after for years. We experience feelings of regret or remorse if we don't accomplish our goal. Our ego screams that we came this far, and we can't face our friends if we fail. The tough decision is to turn around, walk away, and quit… We often equate toughness with persistence, but in some cases, it's the exact opposite. Toughness is...

Reflect: Responding Instead of Reacting True toughness means offering challenge folks, but offering support along the way. It's feeling all of your emotions, understanding they are messengers instead of dictators. It's seeing failure as a necessary part of growth and development. It's sometimes persisting, and others quitting to live to fight another day. It's allowing for exploration, imperfection, and everything in between. The route towards such toughness doesn’t lie in being callous, but...

Reflect: Process vs. Outcomes "The problem isn't outcomes or results themselves. It's what we do with them. We've swung too far to one side of the spectrum, making winning the soccer game or being named salesman of the month an essential part of validating our self. It's not about not keeping score; it's that we've made the score the only thing. We need to rebalance the equation. We must hold onto the idea that outcomes matter, but we should decouple our character from the result and...